Amen! I learned a while back about not letting others rent space in my head...then yesterday I see my brother first time in a couple years (I love him, but honestly don't like him as he pretends to give advice Last night I woke up at 4am and could not fall back to sleep... it wasn't resentment but he rented space in my head w/ his condescending behavior. He is just an ass towards me (I really wanted to add the "hole" back there). We actually argued about my dad paying a $24,000 assessment or take a loan at 7% -I said pay it off so it is like making 7% fixed for 10 years... I got that from your book ;)
Then u mentioned divorce...I got divorced 7 years ago to a truly beautiful person and I only think loving thoughts of her... I don't want to get back with her, but I love her and only want the best for her and the man she left me for.
I'm also bought the book you recommended either here or in Daily Dirtnap called "Tools" I am in chapter 1 and look forward to pain. It seems you live this as you are so accomplished, a 'doer' ... if I can be frank, you are a role model I want to emulate (your actions). I hope to embrace the pain. This was an essay that reached me. When I saw it in my email and the title of resentment and the insomnia I had last night, I couldn't wait to read it. Glad I did!
Once again, great advice. A key sentence you wrote: "No one says you have to have a relationship with this person". Some people around me have a "kiss and make-up" mentality that is annoying when I choose not to socialize with someone I don't like. No resentment, I sleep fine, I just don't like their character and would rather keep my distance and wish them all the best.
Amen! I learned a while back about not letting others rent space in my head...then yesterday I see my brother first time in a couple years (I love him, but honestly don't like him as he pretends to give advice Last night I woke up at 4am and could not fall back to sleep... it wasn't resentment but he rented space in my head w/ his condescending behavior. He is just an ass towards me (I really wanted to add the "hole" back there). We actually argued about my dad paying a $24,000 assessment or take a loan at 7% -I said pay it off so it is like making 7% fixed for 10 years... I got that from your book ;)
Then u mentioned divorce...I got divorced 7 years ago to a truly beautiful person and I only think loving thoughts of her... I don't want to get back with her, but I love her and only want the best for her and the man she left me for.
I'm also bought the book you recommended either here or in Daily Dirtnap called "Tools" I am in chapter 1 and look forward to pain. It seems you live this as you are so accomplished, a 'doer' ... if I can be frank, you are a role model I want to emulate (your actions). I hope to embrace the pain. This was an essay that reached me. When I saw it in my email and the title of resentment and the insomnia I had last night, I couldn't wait to read it. Glad I did!
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I always enjoy your writing. This is spot on, but hard to follow the advice at times.
Yes! Brilliant! May just be my favorite.
Thank you Jared, this is one of the best piece ever! I love hearing and hearing it in my car like a big tune. It's so fucking awesome
Bravo! This might be the best/most important essay I've read of yours!
Loved: Again: you have option one or option two. There is no third option.
Or, in a nutshell, “God grant me the grace…” You know the rest.
Once again, great advice. A key sentence you wrote: "No one says you have to have a relationship with this person". Some people around me have a "kiss and make-up" mentality that is annoying when I choose not to socialize with someone I don't like. No resentment, I sleep fine, I just don't like their character and would rather keep my distance and wish them all the best.