I am 58 and feel better than I did in my 30's. Most of what you are attributing to age is poor health and the canary in the coal mine. I felt like you at the end of my 30's, had a serious health crisis, then made lifestyle changes. Flexibility, strength and good diet will reverse most of that. If I skip my yoga for more than a few days, my hip starts to act up, but when I do it regularly, the hip is fine. Same with the weight lifting.
Agree on friends, but also I find I prune out my relationships because I know enough people that I only want good people around me. I suspect you are doing the same because you attract good people.
Our cult of youth needs to end. In many industries by 50 you are tossed out and much knowledge is lost. In banking you are up or out and you are 100% right on where that ends.
As a woman being old is super fun as now when I flirt it is for entertainment as I am no longer seen as a sexual being. It is incredibly liberating. Patience is a wonderful thing to gain. Death and funerals make life richer. As for cancer, we can prepare continually, so a long, painful decline is not needed. I ask myself regularly how I want to spend this last segment of my life.
I am 67 (I actually had to do the math😜 - you are really only as old as you feel). My stepdad passed from colon CA a number of years ago - if you could pick someone to go on Jeopardy in your place he would be my pick. I told him that I must be getting old because when I got up out of sitting in a chair for awhile I was really stiff. He asked me how many steps it took before it went away. I said “2”. He said “Just wait until you have to make it all the way across the room before it goes away. That “experience” thing should really be appreciated. Thanks for another great article! GFY!
60 years and dying but my thoughts on cancer is the same as yours. But how we will end is as stochastic as the financial markets with a downward convexity. How it ends matters as much as how is the now.
“It is more important to have friends than be right” Sooo true. I’m reminded of a QTR podcast with Schectman. When asked by his wife in the car why he let a guy at a gathering tell him he was wrong even though he wasn’t: “do you want to keep getting invited to parties?” Sage stuff
I saw your reply in my email, but not above so I am not sure how this works. I listen to Joe Rogan and am familiar with the knees over toes guy as is my trainer so I have been incorporating that kind of think to my workouts.
I do not understand why a man would want to pay a prostitute. They do the work out of desperation and despise the Johns. Stories that say otherwise are all male fantasies, not real life.
We are planning to retire outside the US to get better medical care and quality of life. My grandmother spent her last 25 or so years in Italy and I was very impressed by her end off life care there. We both speak Spanish and get our medical care in Costa Rica so Latin America is likely. Much will depend on the geopolitical situation when the time comes. I lived in Switzerland several times and my husband lived in South Korea. We spent a year in Mexico together. I would prefer somewhere that is not excessively materialistic.
Porn actresses despise the men as well, they just don't say so until their careers are over because it is bad for business. Of course they are ordinary people just surviving and tune out the unpleasantness. These businesses involve a lot of violence and control and not just in the US. A friend of mine had a scary encounter in Germany. She was very open and non judgmental so she thought a pimp could be a good person. She developed a friendship with a German pimp and eventually he got her alone and tried to pressure her into becoming a prostitute. Just ask yourself if it would be ok if it was your daughter, wife or mother.
Hookers make more when they are virgins as men pay a lot for that. They don't just slip from consensual to paid, most often they are abused and come from horrible homes. I saw a presentation by an organization in LA that helps girls leave prostitution and it is truly horrible. The vast majority of prostitutes are under age, usually between 13 and 15
In Asia their attitudes toward prostitution are not so different. Buddhism teaches total sexual control. They are just desperate and need to support themselves. I am glad your friend's wife got out. Once they enter prostitution they are not seen as fit for other work.
I saw prostitutes at Jaco beach advertising massages by the hour. I told my husband they were prostitutes and he did not believe me until he went out alone and they were all propositioning him.
Women's groups have done a lot to hurt women. Sleeping around in not empowering for men or women, it just numbs them from deeper connection.
I am 58 and feel better than I did in my 30's. Most of what you are attributing to age is poor health and the canary in the coal mine. I felt like you at the end of my 30's, had a serious health crisis, then made lifestyle changes. Flexibility, strength and good diet will reverse most of that. If I skip my yoga for more than a few days, my hip starts to act up, but when I do it regularly, the hip is fine. Same with the weight lifting.
Agree on friends, but also I find I prune out my relationships because I know enough people that I only want good people around me. I suspect you are doing the same because you attract good people.
Our cult of youth needs to end. In many industries by 50 you are tossed out and much knowledge is lost. In banking you are up or out and you are 100% right on where that ends.
As a woman being old is super fun as now when I flirt it is for entertainment as I am no longer seen as a sexual being. It is incredibly liberating. Patience is a wonderful thing to gain. Death and funerals make life richer. As for cancer, we can prepare continually, so a long, painful decline is not needed. I ask myself regularly how I want to spend this last segment of my life.
Your writing just gets better Jared. This is a profound piece. Well done.
HA! "Go fuck yourself again"
This was a good one Jared
I am 67 (I actually had to do the math😜 - you are really only as old as you feel). My stepdad passed from colon CA a number of years ago - if you could pick someone to go on Jeopardy in your place he would be my pick. I told him that I must be getting old because when I got up out of sitting in a chair for awhile I was really stiff. He asked me how many steps it took before it went away. I said “2”. He said “Just wait until you have to make it all the way across the room before it goes away. That “experience” thing should really be appreciated. Thanks for another great article! GFY!
60 years and dying but my thoughts on cancer is the same as yours. But how we will end is as stochastic as the financial markets with a downward convexity. How it ends matters as much as how is the now.
The old phrase "youth is wasted on the young" means more and more to me every day.
“It is more important to have friends than be right” Sooo true. I’m reminded of a QTR podcast with Schectman. When asked by his wife in the car why he let a guy at a gathering tell him he was wrong even though he wasn’t: “do you want to keep getting invited to parties?” Sage stuff
I saw your reply in my email, but not above so I am not sure how this works. I listen to Joe Rogan and am familiar with the knees over toes guy as is my trainer so I have been incorporating that kind of think to my workouts.
I do not understand why a man would want to pay a prostitute. They do the work out of desperation and despise the Johns. Stories that say otherwise are all male fantasies, not real life.
We are planning to retire outside the US to get better medical care and quality of life. My grandmother spent her last 25 or so years in Italy and I was very impressed by her end off life care there. We both speak Spanish and get our medical care in Costa Rica so Latin America is likely. Much will depend on the geopolitical situation when the time comes. I lived in Switzerland several times and my husband lived in South Korea. We spent a year in Mexico together. I would prefer somewhere that is not excessively materialistic.
Porn actresses despise the men as well, they just don't say so until their careers are over because it is bad for business. Of course they are ordinary people just surviving and tune out the unpleasantness. These businesses involve a lot of violence and control and not just in the US. A friend of mine had a scary encounter in Germany. She was very open and non judgmental so she thought a pimp could be a good person. She developed a friendship with a German pimp and eventually he got her alone and tried to pressure her into becoming a prostitute. Just ask yourself if it would be ok if it was your daughter, wife or mother.
Hookers make more when they are virgins as men pay a lot for that. They don't just slip from consensual to paid, most often they are abused and come from horrible homes. I saw a presentation by an organization in LA that helps girls leave prostitution and it is truly horrible. The vast majority of prostitutes are under age, usually between 13 and 15
In Asia their attitudes toward prostitution are not so different. Buddhism teaches total sexual control. They are just desperate and need to support themselves. I am glad your friend's wife got out. Once they enter prostitution they are not seen as fit for other work.
I saw prostitutes at Jaco beach advertising massages by the hour. I told my husband they were prostitutes and he did not believe me until he went out alone and they were all propositioning him.
Women's groups have done a lot to hurt women. Sleeping around in not empowering for men or women, it just numbs them from deeper connection.