Articles like this make it all the more reasonable why I like you. Cut from the same cloth. Grew up in a shit house with 7 siblings and charismatic Christian parents and my mom just didn’t DGAF. Education and intelligence got me out of that. I read once that the ego is like a pet. Lovable, but needs constant correction and taking care of it.
Also, yea sometimes you come off with an air, but that’s because you’re good at not giving a fuck about small stupid shit. I do the same. Fuck em. If people want the inside scoop they can get to know me. Just like you, I love taking the piss outta things and self deprecate, but am tuned to the important things in life and can draw on that empathy to be very real and in the moment when it’s called for. Cheers mate
Grew up Gen X myself but not in the same situation as Jared's or yourself. That said we experienced similar generational situations I'm sure. It was a rather violent upbringing I'd say.
Anyway, love your second paragraph here. Couldn't have said it better myself. Cheers to you all.
Ah ego. It develops in early childhood through young adulthood, as a means of coping with the world. Having one is necessary.
Unfortunately, many of us (source: me) develop, uh, "flawed" egos. When I was drinking etc, I had delusions of grandeur, and not a whole lot of empathy. It's been a long-term process of rebuilding a healthier ego, one that's still ongoing, via therapy, self-help books, journaling, etc. In short, you can have an ego without being egotistical.
As far as fame, I have a friend who became VERY famous (sorry, no name drops) in her 20s. By 30, she'd dropped out of sight for reasons of self-preservation. It screwed her up so badly, it's taken her 20 years to get over it. And she still has to catch herself for occasionally expecting to be treated as someone "special."
Currently reading A Swim In the Pond in the Rain, by George Saunders. It's a master class in short-story writing, using examples of Russian masters like Chekhov, etc. Highly recommended.
Great article as usual. And I get what you're saying when you talk about being "right-sized" and matching the image you have of yourself with the image others have of you.
While one should take care not to become over-inflated, generally, I do tend to disagree that we need to match what people think of us with what we think of ourselves. We should think more highly of ourselves to some degree, or we won't get to where we want to go. There are a lot of nay-sayers in this world, jealous people, and generally negative sorts, on top of the fact that almost nobody knows you as well as you know yourself. It's OK in my book to think more highly of yourself than others think of you, provided you don't overdo it and become detached from reality. Having a positive inner voice and positive self perception is a true gift. It enables us to do good to great things. Of course self-reflect and question yourself, but try to think highly of yourself. In my trying-to-be-somewhat-humble opinion, at least.
To quote Marcus Aurelius: "It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own."
When I first started reading your work years ago I did think you had quite a large ego. As you’ve revealed more of yourself the last couple of years, I think of you as someone I would like to know. We have similar philosophy’s in many areas. I also started ‘on deck’ and have had some success in the financial world.
"There is that old saying about the guy who was born on third base and thinks he hit a triple". I have never heard of that one, but it made me think, and that's why I read your content. It forces me to think outside of my own bubble; and I thank you for it.
Being aware of your ego is key. Truly aware of it. Ego can work against you in many ways and among its greatest tricks is convincing you you’re in control of it.
Articles like this make it all the more reasonable why I like you. Cut from the same cloth. Grew up in a shit house with 7 siblings and charismatic Christian parents and my mom just didn’t DGAF. Education and intelligence got me out of that. I read once that the ego is like a pet. Lovable, but needs constant correction and taking care of it.
Also, yea sometimes you come off with an air, but that’s because you’re good at not giving a fuck about small stupid shit. I do the same. Fuck em. If people want the inside scoop they can get to know me. Just like you, I love taking the piss outta things and self deprecate, but am tuned to the important things in life and can draw on that empathy to be very real and in the moment when it’s called for. Cheers mate
Grew up Gen X myself but not in the same situation as Jared's or yourself. That said we experienced similar generational situations I'm sure. It was a rather violent upbringing I'd say.
Anyway, love your second paragraph here. Couldn't have said it better myself. Cheers to you all.
Ah ego. It develops in early childhood through young adulthood, as a means of coping with the world. Having one is necessary.
Unfortunately, many of us (source: me) develop, uh, "flawed" egos. When I was drinking etc, I had delusions of grandeur, and not a whole lot of empathy. It's been a long-term process of rebuilding a healthier ego, one that's still ongoing, via therapy, self-help books, journaling, etc. In short, you can have an ego without being egotistical.
As far as fame, I have a friend who became VERY famous (sorry, no name drops) in her 20s. By 30, she'd dropped out of sight for reasons of self-preservation. It screwed her up so badly, it's taken her 20 years to get over it. And she still has to catch herself for occasionally expecting to be treated as someone "special."
Currently reading A Swim In the Pond in the Rain, by George Saunders. It's a master class in short-story writing, using examples of Russian masters like Chekhov, etc. Highly recommended.
Great article as usual. And I get what you're saying when you talk about being "right-sized" and matching the image you have of yourself with the image others have of you.
While one should take care not to become over-inflated, generally, I do tend to disagree that we need to match what people think of us with what we think of ourselves. We should think more highly of ourselves to some degree, or we won't get to where we want to go. There are a lot of nay-sayers in this world, jealous people, and generally negative sorts, on top of the fact that almost nobody knows you as well as you know yourself. It's OK in my book to think more highly of yourself than others think of you, provided you don't overdo it and become detached from reality. Having a positive inner voice and positive self perception is a true gift. It enables us to do good to great things. Of course self-reflect and question yourself, but try to think highly of yourself. In my trying-to-be-somewhat-humble opinion, at least.
To quote Marcus Aurelius: "It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own."
I believe I could be an exemplary member of the Bozo club, may I join? Great article. Love the self-awareness and revelations of same. Thanks.
When I first started reading your work years ago I did think you had quite a large ego. As you’ve revealed more of yourself the last couple of years, I think of you as someone I would like to know. We have similar philosophy’s in many areas. I also started ‘on deck’ and have had some success in the financial world.
"There is that old saying about the guy who was born on third base and thinks he hit a triple". I have never heard of that one, but it made me think, and that's why I read your content. It forces me to think outside of my own bubble; and I thank you for it.
Being aware of your ego is key. Truly aware of it. Ego can work against you in many ways and among its greatest tricks is convincing you you’re in control of it.
From Jawad Mian : http://twitter.com/jsmian/status/1612989551420530688