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John Grover's avatar

I've had a friend for 35 years who ghosted me for a couple of years, and then returned with no explanation. I didn't really ask questions at first, just sort of shrugged and accepted it. But then it seemed to happen again. So I drove over to his house and knocked on the door. Turns out he was lying on the floor in a terrible state of depression. He was barely moving through life. I encouraged him to get some help and he's better now. Sometimes you just don't know what happens with people. Could be it has nothing to do with you.

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Bill Petersen's avatar

I’m 76. Someone ghosts me I say awesome. One less problem. And if I mentored them for career purposes and they ghosted me because I support the President I say F YOU.

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2562@klaxon's avatar

" Tony demonstrated that he is an emotionally healthy person." , would not an emotionally health person , have calmly asked why the website was down , before getting pissed and blowing up your phone ?

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Contrary to Ordinary's avatar

I’ve met Tony. He’s a high energy guy, on the border of wound tight (and I say that with utmost respect). The kind of guy you never have to wonder where he stands because he tells you straight up. For Tony, blowing up Jared’s phone was his version of “calmly asking why the website was down”!!!

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Blueberry's avatar

I guess it’s true when they say the universe may not give you what you want, but it can give you what you need. Going through something like this now, and wow, feeling better already after reading this. Thanks JD 👊

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Rick's avatar

And now deep thoughts by JD

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Bob X's avatar

I liked the one exception you had, abusive people. I'd like to add one more, high function psychopaths...yes, the con man with all their charm.

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Bob Farmer's avatar

Damn JD, this is a great article which everyone has encountered. Ghosting is uncomfortable and made easier today due to technology allowing people to avoid in person conversations.

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Brook Maese's avatar

Great post JD. I loved the part about TG. You two seem like you are very different personalities but I am sure I’d like both of you.

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